When you're in a relationship, you're told to talk about things. You're encouraged to have open communication and to address the future whether it be kids or a home on the beach or getting married. However, some people miss the point and don't understand what the difference is between a timeline and an ultimatum.
There's a very fine line between discussing approximately when your significant other and you feel ready for marriage and demanding marriage of your significant other. You may agree "Well, let's wait until we're financially stable enough to afford the wedding by ourselves" or you may say "let's wait until x amount of years until we feel ready to take on a marriage." Those kinds of discussions are very different than demanding that "we need to get married in a year or I'm through!"
Relationships, and marriages, are partnerships. You have to work together to determine the best for both of you. Sometimes one person isn't ready at the same time as the other to take on such a huge step like marriage. If you force such a big decision, you'll be more likely to divorce because you did just that, force it. People know when, or if, they want to get married. It's not something you can simply demand of someone because all your friends are getting married or an ex is engaged or you just can't stand waiting anymore.
Think about how you've thought about it whether it be in your head or a discussion with a significant other. Are you a timeline or an ultimatum person? Determine that and then figure out how you want to move forward to work within your relationship, not pushing against your significant other.
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