There's a couple issues with bridesmaids that seem to come up consistently. Whether it be a disconnected maid, dealing with an underage maid and a bachelorette, or choosing too early, it's tough to navigate maids or matrons or junior maids.
Q: What do I do if one of my maids is just not interested in the wedding and won't help?
You pick your bridesmaids not because you want them as your personal slaves. Your maids are chosen to stand up next to you and show their support. There's a difference in a maid not showing their support and encouragement for your upcoming marriage and not wanting to sit assembling DIY favors all weekend. As a bride, you also need to keep in mind your bridesmaids' lives. Maybe one of them just lost a family member or has a huge work deadline coming up a few months before your wedding. Consider their feelings and at the very least, talk to them concerning the issues.
Q: I really want my younger sister to be part of my wedding, but she'll only be 18. Does that mean I can't have the kind of fun we want during the bachelorette?
Just because a maid is under the legal drinking age doesn't mean you all can't have fun. Maybe split your bachelorette. Do one night that's a crazy drinking night at a bar and another that's a calm, spa day or a nice dinner with some kind of activity after that you can all enjoy. You can also consider going to a place that serves alcohol, but doesn't card everyone in your party. Think smart, but also think of your maid and how she may feel about it.
Q: I just got engaged and am so excited to pick my maids! But I know I'm going to have a long engagement (1+ years). What do I do?
It's going to be the hardest thing to do, but wait. You really shouldn't pick your maids until at the most 11 months before the wedding. Relationships are going to change. Depending on the length of your engagement, it could be awhile until your wedding. Your best friend now may move across the country and not be as close in a few months. I know it's very difficult not to jump the gun, but breathe, enjoy the just engaged phase and don't worry about it!
If you have any wedding questions that you would like answered, please leave a comment and I'll get back to you as soon as I can!
Tuesday, October 15, 2013
Tuesday, October 8, 2013
Utilize your social media
When it comes to planning and enjoying a wedding, have fun with your Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Vine, Pinterest. You name it, it's out there. Some brides love a good, old fashioned glossy bridal magazine in their hands. I'll admit, I'm addicted to them just as much as any other girl. However, websites like The Knot and websites for the bridal magazines themselves offer a lot of their content on their sites. It's not the same as ripping pages out and putting them into a binder for future planning, but you can learn a lot about etiquette, planning and timelines that can help.
Sites like Pinterest are never ending sources of ideas and inspiration. From DIY projects to bridesmaid dresses and color palettes, tons of good can come from scrolling through some pages and pinning the ideas to a board or two. Organize away and make a few boards. It'll help once it comes time to hire vendors and pick your dresses with your girls!
The sources and information don't stop once the wedding day is here. Don't be afraid to make a Twitter/Instagram hashtag for your wedding. Put it on your invites or on a sign when guests walk in. Guests love to take photos and with the social media and smartphone era, they take a lot of them. However, without a hashtag, it can be difficult to corral all the photos in one place. Many times, smartphone photos are taking over for the disposable camera idea. Use the hashtag so after the honeymoon, you can have them collected in an easy way and be able to enjoy or scrapbook them.
Also during the wedding, utilize Vine to have guests take quick, easy videos of their crazy dancing or the cake cutting or even guests just enjoying the party! What photos can't show, videos can.
Last but not least, use Facebook openly. With the upcoming ability on Facebook to collaborate on photo albums, you can again get all the photos easy in one place to keep track of for the future.
Sites like Pinterest are never ending sources of ideas and inspiration. From DIY projects to bridesmaid dresses and color palettes, tons of good can come from scrolling through some pages and pinning the ideas to a board or two. Organize away and make a few boards. It'll help once it comes time to hire vendors and pick your dresses with your girls!
The sources and information don't stop once the wedding day is here. Don't be afraid to make a Twitter/Instagram hashtag for your wedding. Put it on your invites or on a sign when guests walk in. Guests love to take photos and with the social media and smartphone era, they take a lot of them. However, without a hashtag, it can be difficult to corral all the photos in one place. Many times, smartphone photos are taking over for the disposable camera idea. Use the hashtag so after the honeymoon, you can have them collected in an easy way and be able to enjoy or scrapbook them.
Also during the wedding, utilize Vine to have guests take quick, easy videos of their crazy dancing or the cake cutting or even guests just enjoying the party! What photos can't show, videos can.
Last but not least, use Facebook openly. With the upcoming ability on Facebook to collaborate on photo albums, you can again get all the photos easy in one place to keep track of for the future.
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